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Over the last year and a half, I have felt consistently happy. This is the longest stretch of happiness I have encountered since I was a child.
Over the same amount of time, I have cut a multitude of people out of my life that dragged me down in one way or another: Sometimes, the best thing for you to do for yourself and your bliss is to sever a friendship that brings you down.
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You choose to put aa in that situation, and you will feed off whatever energy the relationship and other person provides. Knowing when a friendship is bad for you and doing something about it can save In need of a good licking from years of misspent energy.
If the answer is something other than they give you support, love, Hang with a boxer get a free lesson and good friend, inspiration, encouragement, laughter, or any other positive emotions or outcomes, ask Hagn this: Do you feel drained, bad about yourself, doubtful, depressed, frustrated, scared, angry, or in any other way negative after most of your meetings?
Do you dread seeing this person? When this person calls, do you avoid it? Know that friends will come and go, and that is natural.
Severing the ties with someone makes room for more positive people to come into your life, and allows you more time to nurture the true friendships you have. The way I dealt with cutting ties to people is through simply not talking to them anymore. I wish I had just been honest with these people instead of refused to take their phone calls.
If I were on goood other side of the equation, I would have been devastated.
I would be wondering what I did wrong. Where did this come from? If I could take it back and do it again in the way I am going to suggest to you, I would. Who knows?
This will take a load off your conscience, and may perhaps mend the relationship by bringing your concerns to light. This tends to be the case when a member of your family is particularly draining or negative. When this person calls to complain about their day, be clear at the start that you can Women to shag in Oklahoma City talk for 10 minutes, then you have to run.
If they give you a hard time, stand your ground. Remember, this is for your sanity and happiness. Once the damage is done, repairing it may be impossible.
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I agreed, and I have come to terms with the fact that my screw-up wasted a solid relationship because I ended it for the wrong reasons. Avoid the coulda-woulda-shouldas- always talk to the other person before cutting her off completely.
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The only thing holding you back from your ideal life is not taking action. So do it. Thank you to everyone lessoon has commented here! Much love in your journey! But i have found once those deep cuts are made, life instantly starts to refresh itself. I blocked her on my facebook. We are not close friends, qnd I took care of her grandma for years. I was very close friends with her grandma. I am also friends with her mom.
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Very sad. Ouch indeed. I wish you much luck in your future of supportive and encouraging friendships!
Thanks Amy — I appreciate it. I really did not want her to gush and cry and go crazy about my move, but there were so many other ways she could have phrased it — the only reason we have seen each other minimally is because I got tired of always being the one to initiate the plans.
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Thanks again for your kind post, and I hope you are surrounded by positivity too!! You just went strait out and said it! I applaud you till my palms bleed!! I dont think its a matter of being cold-hearted. The happier you are, the more happiness you bring to others.
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We as human beings are very scared of anything ending, but we have to realize that in order to begin, change, and grow, things must come to an end. I think you have the right idea: I really appreciate this a lot. Dealing with this with a dear and longtime friend.
It is just not going New Caledonia slut black male married women work after what she just emailed me. I am letting it go with love and prayers…will always talk to her, but it is ahd going to be the same again. The same gft happened to me just over a year ago.
Sometimes things like that happen just to show us that we are worth more than getting treated poorly. Not everyone is meant to be friends with everyone! It makes my day Hang with a boxer get a free lesson and good friend read comments like these. This is definitely one of my favourite articles here! Thank you for the kind words! I was very hesitant to end friendships in the past as well, but you have to stay true to yourself and knowing your worth.
Thanks for chiming in, Lynette! This post is so true.
And I agree absolutely that just cutting without explanation is the worst thing to do. As you said, how would we feel if we are on the other end. And yes, sometimes the honesty is enough to save the friendship. I think what makes it hard is that we wonder what the person will say about us. Or maybe we are worried what they will say about us to other people.
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What it boils down to is how do we feel about ourselves. Can we live with it?
Have we really thought it through and is it right for us? If the answer is yes, then we should have the courage to be honest with the person, because one, it is the right thing to do, and two, because we owe ourselves the closure. We need to respect ourselves enough to say what is on our minds and trust ourselves. You bring up some really good points: This can be taken in two ways, though.
Can we live with keeping this person in our lives?
If the question pertains more to living with ourselves after the cut, however, it ge comes down to knowing that the decision was the right thing to do. You have to look at all the reasons it WAS a good decision and refuse to dwell on the negative what-ifs. Thank you, Keith.
Just to clarify, it was the second of the two wkth And yes, we need to focus on the reasons it was the right thing to do. No need to be unduly dramatic. Everyone picks up on the non-verbal cues.
Sometimes you slowly back away, and sometimes you just cut your losses and move on. This process is just how people get to know each other and find people driend feel authentically connected to or with. If for nothing else, I like to treat people how I would like to be treated. Also, this case is one that is easy to change.